30 untruths to be aware of

You may be familiar with many of these sayings.....

1. The grass is always greener on the other side.
2. If there’s no pain there’s no gain.
3. It never rains but it pours.
4. Life’s a bitch and then you die.
5. Crying never did anyone any good.
6. Don’t trust anyone – not even yourself.
7. You’ve made your bed now you have to lie in it.
8. Leopards don’t change their spots.
9. All’s fair in love and war.
10. Nothing good lasts for ever.
11. The end justifies the means
12. It doesn’t pay to be nice.
13. Only the strong survive.
14. In life it’s every man for himself.
15. It’s a mans world.
16. You can’t afford to care too much.
17. If you don’t look after yourself no one else will.
18. It’s better to be safe than sorry.
19. It’s dog eat dog out there; Life is hard; Life is tough.
20. There’s no such thing as a free ride.
21. Big (brave) boys don’t cry; Nice (good) girls don’t swear, enjoy sex, speak up, hang out in bars etc, etc (too many to choose from here!)
22. Keep your opinions to yourself. Don’t rock the boat and don’t upset the apple cart.
23. Keep yourself to yourself.
24. Children should be seen and not heard.
25. There’s never enough to go around.
26. You have to be cruel to be kind.
27. You can’t trust your feelings.
28. Always err on the side of caution
29. I want never gets.

AND THE WORST ONE OF ALL.....
30. Be good or  the bogey man will come and get you; the police will take you away; you’ll never get to Heaven; Father Christmas won’t leave you any presents....or variations on that theme!

The trouble with these sayings is that they seep into our unconscious mind without us being aware of it. Now SOME of these sayings may be true SOME of the time in SOME situations but NONE of them are true ALL of the time in EVERY situation.
However as children we are not aware of this and if we hear these sayings said often enough (particularly by the significant adults in our lives who we trust) we begin to believe them to be absolutely true ALL of the time! We then grow up with a fixed mindset that rarely gets questioned and which begins to rule our lives, often to our detriment.

The problem is that these sayings are designed to rein us in, to keep us small, to keep us feeling unsafe, wary, troubled and in need of fixing.

All these limiting beliefs are a way of keeping ourselves under control. And just why would we want to keep ourselves under control?

The answer is because we fear our own greatness.

Our true nature is free and expansive; creative and abundant. We are not meant to live clipped lives. We are meant to be free: free from limiting thoughts; free to assess and decide for ourselves what is true and what isn’t; free to decide how we want to live and what kind of world we want to live in.

False beliefs keep us away from the realisation that life is good, generous, bountiful, abundant, kind, supportive and encouraging. When we don’t realise this then we can’t enter the process of making this our reality because the reality that we experience is the mirror image of what we believe to be true. To experience a different reality we need to change the beliefs that rule our minds; we need to reflect a different image.

If you’re interested in doing this then I suggest you start the process by reading through the above list, slowly and with an open mind.
Perhaps you might like to make your own list of sayings that you might have unconsciously accepted as truth over the years?
Ask yourself how much you have been influenced by these sayings. Ask if these sayings are absolutely true ALL of the time?
Be open to seeing things differently. Ask yourself if these are statements that you are happy to live your life by? Be gentle with yourself and patient. If you meet resistance that is fine, it’s all part of the process. If it helps journal your responses then put the list aside and breathe deeply.
Can you taste the beginnings of freedom rising in you?